It’s difficult enough to meet someone who seems like a good love match. But then, over time, things happen between you and your partner that make you wonder: “Is this the right person for me?” It seems as though it should be such an easy question to answer. But once you fall in love, your head and heart can conspire to make you minimize your unhappiness. As the saying goes, love really can make you blind. Research about marriage reveals … [Read more...]
The Unspoken Problem about Domestic Violence and the Baltimore Ravens Ray Rice
I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap. On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore Ravens football team released their running back, Ray Rice, from his contract not long after TMZ published on their website a video that showed running … [Read more...]
Verbally Abusive Relationships: Top Tips for Managing Verbal Abuse in Your Romantic Relationship.
Part 2 in a Series of 2. In Part 1 in this series, “Verbally Abusive Relationships: Top Things about Recognizing and Understanding their Impact,” I talked about how your partner’s verbally abusive words are attempts to diminish, denigrate and define who you are-or aren’t. Your emotional hurt from hearing these words depends greatly on the emotional importance and power over you of the person who is using those words. If you have a low sense of … [Read more...]
Unhealthy Relationship Signs: How to Increase Your Awareness.
Part 3 in a Series on unhealthy relationships. When you tell your trusted friends, family members or therapist about your unhappiness in your relationship, they might give you wise advice, but you probably still have a sentence or two going round in your head that sounds something like this: “Yes, but…you don’t really know him. He’s a good guy…” You could even nod your head or say, “I know, I know…” They mean well, you tell yourself, … [Read more...]
Unhealthy Relationship Signs – Checklist and Reminders
Part 1 in a Series on unhealthy relationships. Does your relationship feel like an empty basket? It’s a horrible feeling. Your hopes were up, you thought this man was a good—or even good enough—mate for you. Just like the cart in the picture, your love had wheels, and you were ready to move forward. And maybe you did for a while, but then… Well, something made those wheels stop and that cart feel empty. Even though previously, I’ve written … [Read more...]