Part 3 of a Series about Bad Relationships In my workshops for career-oriented women who are smart about work but not love, one of the questions that comes up often is how and when to leave a bad relationship. Of course, there are no set answers for all situations, but here are the top tips that helped the women the most who participated in my research about women’s issues in love, life and work. 1. Protect your safety. … [Read more...]
Bad Relationship Quotes
May 28, 2013 By
Part 2 of a Series about Bad Relationships Most of us have had disagreements and bad moments, months—and even years--with our partner or spouse. Unfortunately, being in love also means a greater chance that you will feel emotionally hurt. Why is that? The basic answer is that the more you commit emotionally to a relationship, the more your Emotional Default Defenses also increase against your fears of being abandoned and unloved. These … [Read more...]
Signs of a Bad Relationship
May 20, 2013 By
Part 1 of a Series about Bad Relationships Doesn't this couple look happy? Isn't the automatic joyfulness and teamwork exactly what most men and women want in love? But why does finding the right person and forging a happy team seem so difficult? I wanted to know the answers to those questions, too. So, several years ago, I started conducting research about why today’s successful, career-minded women were often smart about work but not love. … [Read more...]
Dating Advice for Women: Smart Hurt Recovery in Love Relationships
February 19, 2013 By
Most women have been emotionally hurt in love, but not all of them have shut down their hearts to men or the idea of falling in love again. The smart women in my study didn’t blame the man for everything, nor did they build defensive walls. Strong and secure women have no need for armor. I’ve been doing research on women’s issues on love and work for several years, and I’ve learned about how their missteps in love turn them into pessimists. … [Read more...]
Relationship Advice for Women: How to be Your Own Therapist
December 30, 2012 By
People have asked me many times questions about therapy. The most frequent ones include: What do you do in therapy? Do I have to talk about my parents? If I have a problem, do I have to go to a therapist? Can I be my own therapist? Let me start by saying that my relationship advice for women is you can be your own therapist—if you ask the right questions, and if you are willing to be brave enough to face yourself honestly. And … [Read more...]
