Part 1 of a Series: What to Do on First, Second and Third Dates If you’ve ever looked for advice about what to do on a first date, you’ve probably received lots of advice: Make it romantic. Make it memorable—get impossible-to-get-tickets to something that makes you look special. Make it exciting. Bring a gift. Go to an amusement park. Confused? These tips make me think of the scene in the movie “The Wizard of Oz” where the Scarecrow … [Read more...]
Bad Relationships: The Blurry Area of “Should I Leave?”
June 11, 2013 By
Part 4 of a Series about Bad Relationships. I once thought it was a joke that the cartoon character Dagwood would forget his wife Blondie’s birthday or anniversary. How could that be? And why would Blondie stay after such a slight? Well, I’m a bit wiser now. I’m sorry to tell you that these emotional transgressions happen in even the most loving couples. The hurt person’s reactions can range from “Oh that’s just so typical of Dagwood. But … [Read more...]
Dating and Life Advice for Professional Women: Loss, Crises, and Wrong Love Choices
April 29, 2013 By
When I was in post-degree training in family and marital therapy, the professor reminded us that everything we say, think and do as a therapist or researcher will hold true about 85-90 per cent of the time. Expect to be surprised and to revise your understanding of your clients—and you. The same can be said for life’s tendency to deal us wild cards that challenge our trust in the world and our self-view. Being a stranger to yourself can be … [Read more...]
Dating Advice for Successful Women: Managing Negative Self-Messages
April 23, 2013 By
If you are a human being, you likely receive negative messages throughout your life from family, friends, partners, colleagues or bosses. You can’t totally escape other people’s jealousy, misunderstandings, immaturity, assumptions, selfishness or hidden agendas. When I was doing my research of more than 1,000 successful women about their love problems, I saw curious and often worrisome findings about managing negative messages. It was … [Read more...]
Executive Dating Advice for Women: Top Things to Keep in Mind about Finding Love
April 11, 2013 By
I’ve been asked many times questions such as: What are the top things women should do if they are looking for true love? What should women know about finding a caring and respected mate? In my research of more than a thousand women, I learned many surprising things about how to get smart about choosing a man wisely. If I absolutely had to pick just one thing, it would be this factor: Know You! It sounds so easy—but it’s not. Knowing, … [Read more...]
