Part 3 of a Series about Bad Relationships In my workshops for career-oriented women who are smart about work but not love, one of the questions that comes up often is how and when to leave a bad relationship. Of course, there are no set answers for all situations, but here are the top tips that helped the women the most who participated in my research about women’s issues in love, life and work. 1. Protect your safety. … [Read more...]
Bad Relationship Quotes
May 28, 2013 By
Part 2 of a Series about Bad Relationships Most of us have had disagreements and bad moments, months—and even years--with our partner or spouse. Unfortunately, being in love also means a greater chance that you will feel emotionally hurt. Why is that? The basic answer is that the more you commit emotionally to a relationship, the more your Emotional Default Defenses also increase against your fears of being abandoned and unloved. These … [Read more...]
Signs of a Bad Relationship
May 20, 2013 By
Part 1 of a Series about Bad Relationships Doesn't this couple look happy? Isn't the automatic joyfulness and teamwork exactly what most men and women want in love? But why does finding the right person and forging a happy team seem so difficult? I wanted to know the answers to those questions, too. So, several years ago, I started conducting research about why today’s successful, career-minded women were often smart about work but not love. … [Read more...]
Dating and Life Advice for Professional Women: Loss, Crises, and Wrong Love Choices
April 29, 2013 By
When I was in post-degree training in family and marital therapy, the professor reminded us that everything we say, think and do as a therapist or researcher will hold true about 85-90 per cent of the time. Expect to be surprised and to revise your understanding of your clients—and you. The same can be said for life’s tendency to deal us wild cards that challenge our trust in the world and our self-view. Being a stranger to yourself can be … [Read more...]
Dating Advice for Successful Women: Managing Negative Self-Messages
April 23, 2013 By
If you are a human being, you likely receive negative messages throughout your life from family, friends, partners, colleagues or bosses. You can’t totally escape other people’s jealousy, misunderstandings, immaturity, assumptions, selfishness or hidden agendas. When I was doing my research of more than 1,000 successful women about their love problems, I saw curious and often worrisome findings about managing negative messages. It was … [Read more...]
