So you and your colleague and teammate won the Big Deal Award.  You deserved it. You spent many nights together at work, ate food that came wrapped in paper, let your make up smudge, and your hair go flat.  You felt comfortable enough to yawn, really sneeze, take off your shoes, and eat food with garlic. You let your personal problems seep through your moods and conversation, and you sparked him to do the same. You made a great team—the way … [Read more...]

When I was doing research for my study about the love and work life of today’s successful women, I wasn’t surprised that the issue of when to have sex with a new partner was one of their top questions.  What did surprise me was how many women regretted having sex too soon—or at all with some of their dates. I was curious and concerned why this resolve failed.  I discovered a few key reasons and solutions.  Of course, this list can’t cover all … [Read more...]

One of the more dangerous states of mind for women is being unhappy with life, love, and work. Chronic dissatisfaction can lead to depression, diminished sense of self-worth, emotional cowardice, obesity, substance abuse, and suicide attempts. In my study of more than one thousand women and their dating and mating experiences, I learned that the women with high-profile, high income careers often had a very difficult time recovering from … [Read more...]

When I was doing research for my book about women, love, and dating for professionals one of the top questions that the women asked was:  “How do I think with my head and heart?”  The question stemmed from regrets about falling in love too soon and too blindly.  In the cartoon below Cookie is on a second date with Joe.  She hasn’t had a date in a very long time because she got so hurt that she avoided any possibility of making a mistake.  Can you … [Read more...]

Make Sure You Are Not All Work and No Play I’ve been conducting research for several years about the dating, mating, and relating mistakes of today’s career-minded women and executives. I write and research about things that bother me, and I had been puzzled for a long time about why so many smart women who are capable and competent at work are clueless when it comes to men. Since I am a Licensed Clinical Psychotherapist LCSW #7132 FL, I had … [Read more...]