Smart Cookie Tip: Understanding Why Your Recent Ex Found Love So Quickly After Ending it with You.
DON'T beat yourself up if your ex moved on so soon. Of course, you should always reflect on your choice of partner and your relationship, but you might not have been able to stop the break up. Here are some ideas that might help.
- Sometimes, you are actually the caboose in a series of the man’s break up before he makes his commitment.
- We all work out our personal issues in love relationships. It might be that the man resolved some key issue with you—and then needed to move on to another type of relationship.
- On the other hand, don’t assume that he has moved on out maturity. He might be bolting, for example, from a woman who requires that he has his act together. For example, some men might “try out” a woman with a strong commitment to her career development. And then—oops!—he begins to feel “not good enough” or he discovers that he really wants the woman to be a stay at home mother or can’t handle a smart woman, etc.
- Finally, there are age and stage issues. For example, a man in his late twenties or early thirties might choose one type of relationship and then, when he is more career/work/income stable in his later thirties to early forties might want different things in life from a relationship. Hope these get you thinking. Thank you. LB