Important Answers to Your Valentine’s Day Dilemmas

Valentine’s Day is sneaking up on you. If you are like many people, you not only have mixed feelings about the holiday, but you also have some uncertainty about how—or whether—to celebrate it. Here are some tested tips and answers to the most common questions and dilemmas. 1. Why can’t I just ignore the holiday—and save my money? I don’t recommend putting on blinders and skipping the holiday. Ignoring it is like closing up your heart. You … [Read more...]

How to Make (And Keep!) Smart New Year’s Dating Resolutions

Yes—it is that time of year again when we vow to make important changes in our lives. I cheer for you—even if making New Year’s resolutions may not be the only—or necessarily the best—time to make them. Why? The New Year is one of those emotionally powerful dates that can motivate us. But it can also demotivate us. Here are the top reasons that our New Year’s resolutions don’t tend to hold up for very long. As you read them, jot down the ideas … [Read more...]

How to Never Miss a Relationship Red Flag Again!

Even people who are good at reading the behavior of others can miss those red flags that send a warning wave.   Here is a list of the top reasons why we misread—or dismiss—these signals. This list is based on the solid research of others and on my research with thousands of couples over the course of many, many years. But why do we miss them? You can get better at reading people! Top Reasons Why You Miss Relationship Red … [Read more...]

How to Keep From Going Back to a Previous Relationship for the Wrong Reasons

Well, you say to yourself, you were young when you met. Or, one of you was going through hard times. And now you are both more mature, and no one else either of you has dated even comes close to being a good match.   Oh, there are lots of reasons! For one, statistics are really against you. Okay—I know that reliable statistical information is actually a risk assessment based on a large, representative sample, and that the findings may not … [Read more...]

How to Stop Choosing a Very Wrong Partner & Choose Someone Only a Little Wrong

What? Am I saying that you should choose a wrong person for your love partner? No, of course not. But hang in there with me. I’ll be discussing how to avoid really choosing wrong, and choosing wisely and realistically instead. After I read author’s Alain de Botton’s May 29, 2016 article, “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person,” in the Wall St Journal, I thought about my research findings about love. He makes very important points. I will … [Read more...]